I know that many of you who follow my blog are already a little bit aware of what my life is like without Clea but for those who no longer read my blog and who are waiting for me to feel better, please read this post reblogged from Life Behind My Neon Picket Fence …

Life Behind My Neon Picket Fence

The following is written by a father who lost his son, but it may as well be written by me or anyone else who has ever lost a child:

You say it’s time for me to “move on” in my grief. Perhaps you’re right or perhaps you just don’t realize what you’re asking. So, why don’t you try this little exercise and maybe it will help you get a better perspective on what I am going through. To make this really hit home for you it should be practiced for at least 24 hours. The longer the better; but, we do not have that long, so we will do it for 10 minutes. Don’t blow this off as a stupid idea. It works along the same lines as blindfolding yourself to experience being without sight.
First of all, think about your child.
I want you to try to imagine the…

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Mother of three. Bereaved mother of one. Survivor and victim of 2009 Samoan tsunami. Could be if would be writer.
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  1. Susan says:

    Thanks for sharing this Trudie. I just finished reading a book which included a chapter on the topic of ‘healing’. The author called healing a “television word”. He argued that a parent would never heal from the devastation caused by a loss as huge as their child’s death, rather, they would live with massive sorrow and joy coexisting. Not having experienced something as horrific as the loss of my child, I can’t expect to understand what this feels like but thinking about this idea helped a little bit.

  2. Lou & Matt says:

    Thanks Trudie – especially for the link. As best we’re able, we try to understand ‘the presence of Clea’s absence is everywhere’…including in our thoughts.
    Matt & Lou

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